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“Then the Lord God made a woman…and he brought her to the man.” (Genesis 2:22)

Adam lived in a perfect neighborhood and had a perfect job—one God gave him. It doesn't get much better than that. Nevertheless he was lonely; something was missing from his life. The Bible says, “But for Adam no suitable helper was found. So the Lord God…made a woman” (vv. 20-22 NIV). God recognized Adam's need for companionship and He met that need. However, this is where some of us acting on loneliness, frustration, or bad advice, rush ahead of God.

There's a reason one of the nine gifts of the Spirit listed in the Bible is “the ability to distinguish between spirits” (See 1Co 12:10). When someone comes into your life they don't just bring their looks, talents, and financial assets; they also bring their spirit. If you've ever been around someone with a controlling spirit, a vindictive spirit, a resentful spirit, or a negative spirit, you know why this particular gift is so important. So make yourself a hard jury, one that's not easily convinced, one that requires concrete evidence before reaching a verdict. And remember that it's better to lengthen the deliberation process and ensure the decision you make is right, than to reach a hasty conclusion and end up with a broken heart.

You may not feel wise and experienced when it comes to making such decisions, but hear this: It's not how much you know that arms you with the tools of great decision making, but how much you ask. The first person to ask is God, and the time to do it is before, not after you get into a relationship.

「耶和華就……造成一個女人,領她到那人跟前。」(創2:22)

亞當住在一個完美的環境中,並且有一個完美的工作──神給他的工作。沒有比這更好的了。然而,他很寂寞。他的生命少了某樣東西。聖經說:「只是那人沒有遇見配偶幫助他……耶和華就……造成一個女人。」(20-22節)神看出亞當需要伴侶關係,便滿足那需要。然而,有些人因此而在寂寞、挫敗或不好的建議下,跑在神的前面。

聖經列出聖靈的九種恩賜,其中有一項是「能辨別諸靈」(見哥林多前書12:10),這不是沒有道理的。當某人走進你的生命中時,他不僅帶著他的相貌、才幹和資產,還帶著他的靈。你若和某個具有掌控之靈、報復之靈、怨恨之靈或消極之靈的人相處過,你就知道這個恩賜之所以如此重要的原因。因此,讓你自己成為嚴格的陪審團員,不輕易被說服,在作出判決之前要求具體的證據。而且記住,寧可延長審議的過程,確保你所作的決定是正確的,也不要作出草率的結論,以傷心告終。

在作這種決定時,你不一定感到具有智慧和經驗,但是聽聽這句話:使你能夠作出重大決定的不是你知道多少,而是你詢問多少首先要問的就是神,而且是在你進入一個關係之前,而非之後

作者簡介: Rev. Bob Gass 鮑勃·蓋斯牧師出生於北愛爾蘭貝爾法斯特,十八歲移居美國。在他服事主超過四十多年後,於1992年開始著手寫The Word For You Today“得力的一天”。 他的靈修文章善於激勵與啟迪人心,更幫助許多讀者每日倚靠主、與主同行。

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